The Seven Goal-Setting Myths FINALLY BUSTED!
Anyone bent on achieving any form of goal could easily by sidetracked by forceful myths. Many people have been swayed into believing the most common and far-out myths about goal setting. With the incessant flow of counterproductive resources, it’s no surprise why many people give up on their goals. Worse, so many other people believe that attaining their goals is tantamount to just having targets or objectives.
As I made it my personal goal to bust all these adverse experiences, this article aims to give every reader clearer views of the truths about goal setting. Here are the seven myths finally busted:
1. Goal Setting Is Too Difficult And Takes Too Much Time. This first myth drives down hundreds of people to laziness. Yes, setting any goal can be physically taxing. Some people find it difficult, but this is relative, depending on what the goals are. People who want to set goals, however, are bound to discover that the hard work is tolerable, particularly because there is a glimpse of hope at the end of the dark tunnel. It is admittedly time-consuming when one sets goals. But then again, so any important undertaking will likely take time to do.
People who denounce goal setting as a difficult, lengthy process are those who want success fed to them. It’s not likely to happen, though. Like any attainment, goal setting needs to be worked on. If you work on it fast and efficiently then it cuts that long wait. If you put your heart to setting goals and finding ways to stick to them, then what is difficult with that?
What remains true as it has always been true is that goal setting is a process of self-discovery that leads a person toward what his heart and soul desires. Anyone can enjoy such process and have great experiences while at it. In the end, what you want in life and ahead should not be burdensome but fun; anything you desire yourself to be should not be timed but lavished as a learning process.
2. All Goals Must Come With Deadlines. If you truly believe this, you’re bent on getting frustrated. If you scroll up a li’l bit you’d read that anything you desire should not have time limits or deadlines. Again, let me repeat, goal-setting is a process, and the goal in itself need not be enthroned on a certain date or period of life. Otherwise, over half of the world’s population would be depressed with failed expectations.
What is true about goals are that they are always flexible. Unlike “today’s to –do” that indicates “pay bills” or “call Mom” that must be completed as scheduled, goals have more relaxed time-frames. This opens the space for sudden changes in life like moving to another place, getting laid off from work or having another child. Yet, such surprises will still have set goals in view, while it could not be realized at an earlier set target.
As goals do not have stringent deadlines, they actually take away too much stress. With proper goal setting conducted, anyone could process the undertaking in ways it could build better self-esteem. At the same time, such flexibility opens doors for creatively implementing their goals and practicing skills and discipline to achieve their desires.
3. Goals Need Only A Once-A-Year Review. This is so untrue, it has become funny. For people who values action and achievements, it is well known that any undertaking needs to be checked periodically. Looking into your goals every now and then means you get to measure movement and evaluate for necessary change in gears. People who insist goals need reviews just once a year are probably driving pathetic cars, if not living in termite-infested homes and using PCs that are nearing irreparable crash.
Fact is that any important action such as having goals needs to be followed through. Failure to do so would result to wasted time and effort. Without reviews, you wouldn’t get grasp of what steps need to be hastened or eliminated; it could mean moving too slow or veering too far from your goals. But with regular reviewing, you’re likely to stick to your goals and achieve it as well.
4. A Goal Is An End In Itself. If you tell this line to any successful, happy person, they will shake their heads in disagreement. A goal is like scoring, but the game of life goes on. Those who strongly believe that achievement of goals define their whole existence are likely to be at loss when they do get to that spot. Why? Because goals are not meant to make a person. Instead, the whole process toward attaining goals that shapes who you are.
Imagine yourself wanting to take a vacation in Cyprus or Maldives. When you finally get there, do you just stand on the airport and declare you’ve been there and done that? Most likely not. Instead, you go around the place, experience its food, drinks and culture and visit the places of interest. What you do to make the vacation real is one thing, the trip is another and the whole time you’re in the place is another venture. After your getaway period, you make another goal ranging from going home and getting back to work and then planning the next vacation in other places.
Goals are very much like travels. The destination isn’t the totality but a parcel of the whole process. Bearing this in mind makes goal-setting and aspirations meaningful. On the other hand, treating goals as an end in itself would likely find you with luggage and digicam at an airport.
5. Everyone Must Know Your Goal. Announcing to the world your intentions makes you susceptible to more barriers than necessary. It is a natural human phenomenon that magnetizes negative forces from others around you. Once you tell the whole office you intend to quit work and be an online affiliate marketer, some people are likely to jump on your way.
Instead of letting everyone know your goals in life, keep it a private matter and share it with people who you know would support you. Like any other personal commitment, make your goals a delicate matter that involves only people who mean well.
6. You Can Do It Alone. Let us be sensible at this point. Parts of your efforts to achieving your goals would need your mind, body and soul. But other parts would definitely mean seeking help from others. This situation, however, is different from announcing your goals to the whole world. It is all about choosing the people who could provide you with expert ideas and technologies, emotional support and inspiration. For others, a huge part of attaining their goals mean they need to master specific skills and training which they could get from others. There are those who are innately talented and yet needs constant prodding or need to improve on other areas to maximize movement towards achievement.
Too much confidence of doing things single-handedly works well with easier tasks. But with life’s goals, get real with yourself. In doing so, you realize you need others to help you out and propel you toward success. It is just a matter of choosing people wisely.
7. That Yale Study Says It All. Much has been said about a certain empirical study from Yale which states that the miniscule 3% of a class overtook the successes accomplished by 97% others. Reportedly, the 3% wrote down their goals, implying they set specific goals and thus achieved much more financial and material gains. As myth had it, the larger part of that class couldn’t compare their combined financial wealth to that 3%.
This is not only astounding and unproven, as many motivational resources learned. They discovered such claim to have negative impact on people who need to understand the basics and value of goal setting. Instead of letting you learn with an open mind, such Yale study myth misleads with saying all you need is writing specific goals. Doing just that without learning, review or measuring or having appropriate and realistic actions would later reveal just goals in words. Better yet, it would just be a dream of someone who is fully awake.
When you come across these seven myths, don’t be entrapped and let go of goal-setting. Doing so would only get you really trapped into a meaningless, routine and boring existence. Always believe that when you have goals set right and clear, you are ready to take purposeful actions that are fun and filled with great discoveries. Bust these myths yourself and boost your life!